Okay guys, I got mine to work it just took some wrangling
What I did was I opened the Bedford Falls, Rebuild, Phoenix etc mods and I went inside to media/maps/[map] and in that there are .lotpack, .lotheader and .bin files
I took those and I pasted them into both my common/ProjectZomboid's media/maps/Muldraugh, KY folder, overwriting the .lotpack, .lotheader and .bin files already there, and I copied them into my pzserver folder's media/maps/Muldraugh, KY folder too (overwriting, again)
My friend also did this in her Muldraugh folder and when we booted the server it all worked! (Except Rebuild, idk why)
I also combined the objects.lua files into one objects.lua file, for foraging, but I haven't tested to see if that works
If you do this: DO NOT FORGET TO BACK UP YOUR MAPS FOLDER BEFORE YOU OVERWRITE *ANYTHING*. DON'T SAY I DIDN'T WARN YOU
I wish there was an easier way of doing this, though, and I haven't tested whether my friend (or I) could connect to the server by using the BedfordFalls mod on client and just overwriting the server files, I'll have to do some experimentation.
I hope this helps you guys! Especially you, 2Girls1Chuck, it sounds like this might solve your issue maybe.
@stormy I was copying what I've seen on other mods. Those mods run. It wasn't just free text earlier (idk why I saved it like that) it was in stars/slashes/something similar. I'll try without the free text once I'm on the laptop again (posting from iPad, ha).
ETA: Whoops almost missed your second question: the console loads, then the launcher. I hit run game like always and then the zomboid window appears. The console does nothing, the window is black then says 'not responding'. If I leave it, it simply shuts itself.
ETA again: I took the free text out and it did nothing. The game still doesn't load with my mod in there.
I've narrowed it down It'll load if it's just the .info file, poster and readme As soon as I add the scripting .txt file, it doesn't load. Fixed it: There was a } missing from the end of my scripting file. I'm new to this. And apparently very dumb.
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